Is it possible to avoid comparing oneself to others? "They" always say not to but do you find yourself seeing what everyone around you is creating and wondering, with a mix of pride in their accomplishments and a tiny twinge of jealousy, where you fit in? In this age of constant updates it's hard to avoid the comparisons. As I continue to adjust to a place where what one "does" is not nearly as important as who one is (but I've already covered that here) I can't help but keep trying to prove my worth. I fit in here - I am an artist, I'm broke, I don't work enough - and that's all perfectly acceptable and normal. Is it also normal to keep wanting to say, "But I used to be successful. I used to live the fabulous life and make money and travel and show my work and eat at fancy restaurants and live in New York"? Normal or not, I've got to drop it because it's getting old and even I keep thinking, "Yes, but what have you done for me lately (besides protesting neo-nazis, playing ping pong, watching movies outside, dancing to strange music, living in the park, cooking with no directions, listening to authors I can't understand, seeing art, thinking about art, making art, meeting strangers, riding my dear bicycle and learning German)?"
Alexa Vachon Photography Blog · COMPARE & CONTRAST
18 August 2009COMPARE & CONTRAST

Comments (4)
You only live once. You should relish this time to do all those things. I am jealous it sounds like your having an amazing and special time there. I could do with some of it myself. Hoping to pop over in the Autumn. Bye the way it feels like Autumn is here in Glasgow already, rain and grey skies galore!! xx
shut up over there and let go of all that canadian bullshit.
heard this great thought the other day from kenny shopsin that might make you feel better. he said (and i'm paraphrasing), none of us are that terrific. if you go around thinking you're a really good person all the time, it's like being a brand new car with no scratches. it's a lot of responsibility. better to understand you're not that terrific and it's not all about you and if you do some good things for other people sometimes you're doing ok.
ok take it easy. i'm not that terrific and i left a gift with your name on it over on my blog today.
love, all of my american bullshit.
hey. no, it is not possible and all of that not terrific nonsense is utter nonsense once you actually think like you think. :). i mean, we are all raised comparing ourselves to others all the time in a very competitive way. why would it be any different now that we are grown up? by the way, i DO think you're terrific and i enjoy following your blog a lot. which makes you the person doing something good for me. also, life is long. things will happen again for you, i am sure. be really happy that they have indeed happened to you already. that way you can make all us berliners a little jealous. oh, and one last thing: jealousy and envy are GREAT triggers for creativity. so, what goeth around...
i guess that quote up there out of context sounds not quite like how he meant it. i agree with marieke--you're pretty terrific. me? i'm not that terrific. so if you compare yourself to me, you're in pretty good shape. love you, bb
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